Keep calm and move along.

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Okay, so its been a bad/crazy few days. Do you ever just have one of those days (or weeks) that your absolutely adorable sweet innocent lovable children are just absolute lunatics? Well, I have. Currently actually. I’m not sure if the moon is in a weird spot, or Saturn and Jupiter are aligned just perfectly to make even the sweetest children crazy, or maybe they are just super whiny and it’s finally getting to me. It’s when everything you say or everything that happens make them upset and gives them reason to scream and cry.
My child is throwing a screaming fit because ________(fill in the blank).

ex: …my sock came off.
       …I don’t want to wear socks.
       …I can’t see the turn signal.
       …She’s looking at me.
       …I want my mommy. (I’m her mommy, that doesn’t even make sense because I’m always right there.)
       …I want to go home. (another one that doesn’t make sense, she always says this while we are at home!)
       …I dropped my toy.
       …I’m too tired to pick up my toy.
       …I don’t want you to pick it up either.

Okay, I’m sure you get the message.. it’s exhausting.

Its days like this when you just want to scream and cry too. But you can’t, because what good would that do? It only shows them that that’s the way you’re supposed to act when you don’t like something. So what can you do?

Stay calm.

Walk away.

Find your happy place.

Seriously, just keep calm and move along.

Listen to music, take yourself to a quiet room away from the crying, go clean something. Do whatever you have to do to walk away and not freak out.

WWJD? Turn the other cheek.. Okay, so I’m not sure that really was meant to be applied to when your children are driving you crazy.. but hey, it works either way.

Like I said, it’s been a rough few days. They were gone to see their grandparents all day yesterday, so I got a little break, thinking today would be much better. It wasn’t. We had a birthday party to go to at 11:30 this morning, and A had I don’t even know how many crying fits before we even walked out of the house. Then, on the way to the car, B had a meltdown and I don’t even remember why exactly. It’s snowing, it’s windy and absolutely freezing outside, and she’s just standing on the porch steps screaming and crying. That’s when I knew it was another bad day.

Needless to say, the trip into town, the party itself, and the trip home, was rough. I had this whole blog post planned out in my head, (I think best while driving) and I knew I would start it as soon as I got home. But then I thought, I don’t have a solution to this, why even post about it? People don’t care that you have a bad day, they have them too. They want to know what to do to fix them, to never have days like that again.

The truth is, you can’t.

There is no fixing it. They are children, that’s what they do. They scream, and cry, and throw themselves on the floor, and kick and just act completely ridiculous. But you know, I can almost promise you, that you did the exact same thing at their age. My girls are 3 and 19 months, I shouldn’t expect them to be kind, polite and calm 24/7. There is a whole load of disappointment ahead if you expect that from your young children too.

What we I need to do is just focus on who they really are. Yeah they have bad crazy days, don’t we all? Don’t we sometimes wake up on the wrong side of the bed, as the saying goes? Don’t we sometimes feel a little pissed off at the world? Yes. We do. But the tantrums and the acting out is not what defines our kids, and it’s not what defines us either. We have to teach them how to handle those emotions when they just want to scream and cry, and what methods they could be using instead to get their anger and frustrations out.

Focus on my children, and who they really are.

B – is my sunshine, she is sweet, kind, polite, well-mannered, timid, shy, and goofy.

A – my twinkling little star, my wild child, daring, un-afraid, curious, crazy, clumsy, and dances to the beat of her own drum.

They are night and day to each other, and I love them with absolutely everything I have. And no matter the bad days we have, I know that one day, I will miss them being this little and regret spending days like this being angry and frustrated too.

One of my favorite sayings/quotes is,

“There are people who would love to have your bad days.”

I think of that constantly on my bad days, and it helps me see how blessed I really am. Even though I already know that I am blessed far more than I deserve, it’s just sometimes we I need reminding of that.

They are a blessing, and I wouldn’t trade these rotten kids for nothing. 🙂

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13 Comments

  • Reply Hil

    WINE! Wine at the end of the day can for sure help me 🙂 My favourite was the tantrum because I peed and she didn’t want me to. Oh toddlers!!

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    January 18, 2016 at 9:27 pm
    • Reply Whitney

      Exactly! If they can “whine” all day we can wine at night, haha. Thank you! I will def be sure to check that out! 🙂

      January 18, 2016 at 9:59 pm
  • Reply Val

    I can SO relate to this! Mine are 3 and 18 months and totally agree, the stars must be in alignment because our tantrums have been OUT. OF. CONTROL. I need to make this my mantra: There are people who would love to have your bad days.
    You’re not alone, momma!

    January 18, 2016 at 10:08 pm
    • Reply Whitney

      Good to know I’m not alone! But I know it sucks, lol. I’m blaming it on the stars too.. That MUST be it.

      January 18, 2016 at 10:19 pm
  • Reply Rachel

    I have to agree with the wine. My kids are the same. They are almost 2 and almost 5. They are night and day, but when they do get on the same page they are little lovable terrors. Love your post.

    January 18, 2016 at 11:12 pm
    • Reply Whitney

      Thank you so much! It’s funny how they can drive you absolutely insane, but you can still love them more than anything!

      January 18, 2016 at 11:38 pm
  • Reply Meaghan mitsiopoulos

    Definitely relatable! Awesome blog!

    January 19, 2016 at 1:10 am
    • Reply Whitney

      Thank you so much! 🙂

      January 19, 2016 at 9:33 am
  • Reply The Oracle

    I’d go for the wine too and music to go with it. Sounds perfect

    January 19, 2016 at 2:04 pm
  • Reply nicole durham

    I can relate. my kid complains that she wants her socks off and then that they are off and she wants them back on, etc. 2.5yrs old, makes me screamingly crazy and puts me on an emotional roller coaster almost daily. but I wouldn’t change it for the world, kids will be kids and they are only little for so long. your quote at the end really struck me and added the extra thankfulness to my day.

    January 19, 2016 at 2:08 pm
    • Reply Whitney

      That’s great! Thank you for reading! 🙂

      January 19, 2016 at 2:44 pm
  • Reply Justine Y

    I have been having one of those days (well, past couple weeks!) too. ugh. But I love the quote you shared and it’s so true, there are people who would love to have my bad days.

    January 19, 2016 at 11:37 pm
    • Reply Whitney

      Yes! Every time I get stressed I think about that quote, and I know that things could always be a lot worse. It helps me get over it quickly. 🙂

      January 20, 2016 at 10:59 am

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